It’s the holiday season here in the U.S., so we certainly see the best in people (donations, serving at the food line, seeing family etc…)… but I’m afraid we also do something else.
Obviously, not everyone is included in this group, but more and more are it seems…
We try so hard to “impress” other people, people who don’t give a shit about us because they don’t know us, or haven’t even met us.
Think about it… all of the “one-upping” your neighbors, buying more and more stuff you don’t need, going further and further in debt for “status” we’ll never achieve, and on, and on. It’s a sad state of affairs.
And with the exception of the “one-upping” the neighbors, I was there.
But then, some years ago around Thanksgiving, I had an awakening…
I slowly realized that my “actions” were way more important than stuff or statements… in fact, my actions became my statements.
I realized I didn’t have to “try” so hard to impress people, and honestly, I didn’t really want to try and impress people anyhow… because people saw through the “trying”.
See, it really only matters who you are, and what you do. It doesn’t matter (at all) what stuff you have, how much gloating you can do, how much one-upping or “winning” you do.
So if you:
- Hurt people
- One up people
- Mindlessly buy stuff for the sake of buying stuff
- Don’t have the courtesy to think before you say hurtful things
- Etc… etc…
Then you need to get a life. You could accomplish so much more without having to do any of these things, done mainly to “impress” people (or worse, yourself). And even worse, these types of actions typically result in nothing more than an “empty” feeling in your life that you end up trying to fill.
Folks, the Joker said it best (from the first Batman movie)…
“This town need an enema.”
Just replace “town” with country… or dare I say “World.”
So here is the remedy for this:
- Meet your neighbors (carefully)
- Don’t say hurtful things, even if you can
- Don’t send SPAM
- Don’t troll
- Don’t publish online “hurt,” as it has a permanent effect
- Help your fellow human
- Donate your useless stuff, the stuff you’re mindlessly consuming, the stuff you don’t even know you have but you pack around with you… to charity.
And on, and on.
It’s all common sense, but as Grandpa used to say…
“Common sense isn’t all that common.”
I think we can turn that phrase around, starting this Thanksgiving, starting right now in fact… with the next person you come into contact with.
Let’s make common sense common again. 🙂
Have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving.