On The “Grey Areas” Of Discourse In Society

We need to be able to have the adult conversation in society, both online and offline.

Even that conversation that might be considered “taboo” or approaching the “grey areas” that we don’t want to discuss.

You know the topics … feminism, rape, what really happened in WWII, what truly happened on 09/11, class in society, ISIS, terrorism (or lack thereof), our moral bankruptcy, our search for genuine human connection … and on, and on (there is a LONG list).

The stuff that isn’t comfortable to talk about.

But here’s the deal…

We need to be able to talk about these things without demoralizing each other, without classifying each other, without segregating each other.

Because these are important discussions to have; and calling people names, trolling, or being abusive while these conversations are taking place … no matter how difficult the words seem … does not progress any one conversation at all.

And we need to move all of these conversations forward, because our society is changing rapidly, and each of the “taboo” topics (as well as the more comfortable ones) will be changed dramatically along with it.

As the discourse is being changed, so must we discuss what to change.  In order to gain the most benefit from our connected “brain trust” on the Web, we need to be civil, and respect the facts:

  1. We’re all human.
  2. We all have faults.
  3. We all have fears.
  4. We all have emotions.
  5. We can all contribute.
  6. Our contributions need consideration.
  7. Not one of us is “better” than another.
  8. But we each have special talents, gifts, and expertise that need to be respected in this conversation.
  9. We will evolve once we “get past” the need to demoralize one another, or to “prove” our opinion is “better” than another person’s.  (More qualified? Maybe.  But “I’m better than you!”? Nope.)
  10. We break the status quo by being allowed, and allowing each other, to be human.

I don’t want to devolve this thought into a “set of rules” we must all follow while talking about these grey areas, these so-called “taboo subjects” of society.

The point isn’t in the guidelines, the point is we shouldn’t need guidelines to express our own voices, and truly listen to others … even when the topic is uncomfortable or seemingly “bad” (or “good”).

We can truly benefit from this “connected network of the human brain trust” IF we allow ourselves the opportunity for a truly open mind.

Let’s be rational, open minded, and be skeptical.  But let’s also understand not everyone has the talents, understanding, or ability you have.

In my opinion, the discourse in our society (when taken as a whole) reflects the emotional condition of that society.  I don’t think this emotional condition is as healthy as it could be.

I think we all need to “lighten up” as they say, and just immerse ourselves in the vast environmental, technological, and social resources that have connected us to each other.

Life isn’t anything, it just “is.”  It’s NOT too short, we just need to use this gift for the intended purpose.

I wonder what would happen if each of us evolved to our true potential, especially when it comes to truly listening to our fellow human being?

Think about that today.  We all need to be heard.

While we certainly don’t need these “grey areas” of discourse to fill our lives, I think we can evolve the discussion of these areas to a much better place.